In the Palm of the Hand of God

If I was going to go back to age twenty - one, which is the age I was when I got married, and imagine what my life would look like I don't think it would look like what it does now.

For starters I don't think I would have thought that my children would be spaced so far apart in age or that I would be having children in my forties.

I obviously did not think I was going to get cancer so quickly after getting married and feel exhausted the rest of my life!

I did not imagine I would never get to move out of the town I was born in.

I did not imagine I would be a grandmother at age forty two. 

I did not imagine that my child would struggle so terribly all his life so far.

I did not imagine that my marriage would be the way it has been.

I did not imagine that my parents would struggle so deeply.

I did not imagine that my first child would be adopted.

The list goes on. I didn't imagine all this. I imagined a fairy tale of sorts. I imagined my husband and I would somehow be used by God to bless others in a small town. I imagined a no screen life, children growing up with animals and mostly outdoors like I was. I thought we would travel and also minister that way. I had no idea about the rat race of just trying to pay bills and make enough to pay for counselling and doctor bills etc. I had this beautiful idea in my mind of how I wanted my life to be. I wanted to be impactful. I wanted to be so deeply caring. I wanted to keep every friend I ever had for life. 

Here I am this evening. I am so deeply bone weary it feels impossible to go on. This year has been just so intense. The sickness has not stopped week after week month after month. There has been an opportunity to possibly buy land and move but it keeps being dangled but also just not attainable. The school I have homeschooled through for years has gotten shut down. Plans are just plans. They change constantly and that is something I struggle with so deeply. I am the mother here. I am responsible for creating a calm and nurturing environment. I am responsible for the health and wellness of my family and I have been letting everyone down.

Life 

It is a journey. 

And I have to say that in amongst all this absolute soul deep exhaustion, there is soul filling beauty as always. ALWAYS! I have a two year old who changes her clothes about fifteen times a day because she feels so beautiful in them all that she can't decide what to stay in. She has cut her hair to the scalp in some areas and has a mullet and just loves it! She sings and dances and is so authentically herself. I have a one year old grandson who is so empathetic and so sweet. He is so full of love and preciousness. How could I ask for more!!!! 

So today I was crying and feeling so undone. I just felt so wild inside and I also felt this sense of safety as well. I knew that feeling these feelings needed to happen. I knew that they would pass. I knew that despair doesn't stay forever. I knew that I would make it through. I felt so thankful for the fact that I have learned this! It's taken a LONG time but I have that knowing inside me now. What a gift. I drove my fifteen year old to her first interview to work at a camp this summer. I thought of that and brought that about and that was a good parenting move on my part. I folded many loads of laundry that I gathered from around the house. I made dinner and did the dishes. When my brain tells me relentlessly that I am the worst, that I am a failure, that I have failed in every way shape and form ~ I am thankful to look around me and see of course I have but I have also triumphed. Life has not been easy, life is not supposed to be, and I am in the palm of the hand of God. I am RIGHT where I need to be. So onwards I go.

Don't forget that okay? You are in the palm of the hand of God. Life may be incredibly hard and exhausting and overwhelming. You are not alone. You are loved

Tansy