Here I am in my minuscule corner of the world. It is Friday and its been a day where my children were FULL of vim and vinegar. It was intense because we have a small living space and they were rebounding off the couches and running and running. We had them outside as much as possible but they never ran out of the relentless energy. I was not alone, my sister backed me up, and we have made it through with everyone alive. Our highlight today was going to the Coop where we bought bunny food and a bunny toy. It had an old time general store feel and made me happy.
My key worker came over yesterday and we talked about a lot of things. She comes once a month and it seems like by the time she gets here I have really veered off course. She reminds me of all I need to remember and helps me get back on track in all sorts of areas. Yesterday she talked to me about the unnoticeable things that happen in our lives and how when they are recognized sometimes it sprinkles a bit of fairy dust on a very ordinary happening. When she got back to her office she emailed me a list of things she wanted to point out in me that I was doing for my family that was important and special. It was so thoughtful and it got me thinking about all the things that happen every day in my life that go unnoticed by everyone but myself but that are important to keeping my family going. I sort of feel like I need to start thanking myself a little more for all I do every day to make life run a more smoothly, and to recognize that even though it is so small, if it was never done life would have a different feel here.I don't want to wait around for someone else to do it. I don't want to resent other people because they don't recognize it for me. Maybe you are a mom out there that is feeling worn and that needs a thank you. You have chosen to do the hardest most important job in all in the world ~
So thank you ~
for the massive grocery shop you do each week ~ I know it exhausts you and makes you want to cry sometimes but you do it because then your family has food
for all the dinners you have made as children fight around you
for all the fights you have broken up with patience
for every time you smiled into their eyes
for the kiss hello to your husband when all you want to do is say see ya and take off for a lot of hours
for changing the toilet paper so often
for cleaning out the sink so the next person can enjoy a clean sink
for changing the hand towel
for changing the dish towel and sink cloth
for scrubbing down the bathtub
for taking the time to write (or whatever you do for you) even though every second you are doing it the baby is screaming at you and grabbing at your arm because someone is always needing you (if you didn't take just a couple seconds to yourself you'd go mad)
for doing dishes all day
for keeping the children hydrated and fed
for doing laundry every single day and multiple loads
for washing mirrors and windows so people can see clearly
for making sure everyone has shoes and jackets every time we leave the house
for making sure everyone has baths and gets their hair washed multiple times a week
for making sure everyone every night gets their teeth brushed even though they fight you tooth and nail
for trimming those nails
for nursing each child through sickness and being there available whenever they need you no matter what time of night
for homeschooling your children because it is what they need right now and caring so much about what school they attend
for going to all the appointments, driving the drive, making the snacks, being the emotional support, through it all even though sometimes your heart is breaking at the news of whatever this appointment has brought. You remain strong. You are mom.
for keeping the bedding clean
for washing the fingerprints off the walls
for keeping the counters clean whenever you can
for cleaning out the toilet
for changing all those dirty diapers
for buying new toothbrushes or hair elastics or socks when someone needs them
for keeping people's drawers organized and neat
for picking up his dirty clothes off the floor again and washing them, folding them and putting them away
for caring about your friends so much and trying to make sure each one knows it
for checking in with your husband while he is at work because you care about how he is doing
for baking for your family
for caring about what each child likes and is interested in, what their strengths are, and encouraging them in that
for caring about keeping your children safe on social media
for reading quality literature to your children and ordering it on CD's if they dont like sitting and listening to books
for doing a good job running the finances
for getting your children outside in the sun and making sure they get to experience different facets of the outdoors
for attempting to start traditions and make happy family memories
for writing letters to your children from birth onward
for the baby books you have for each child
for the scrapbooks
for the photo albums
for the massive effort you undergo every day just to get out of bed and do all you need to do that day
for all the sick days you dont get to have
for all the lonely moments at home
for the daily laying down of yourself and the moments when you cant go on any longer...but you do
for the treats you get your children because it makes them smile
for the birthday parties you have thrown
for the celebrations you have organized for your spouse because you love him so
for the massive every day effort you put into your family
They would not be all they are if it was not for you.
All these unnoticed things are so vital and YOU accomplish them. You are amazing
So thank you :)
(this was my list but maybe you should make yourself one and read it, let it soak in....)
Thank you for calling your sisters and checking in with them. Thank you for remembering birthdays and anniversaries and sending cards or special gifts. Thanks for budgeting blessing $$ every months so you can bless others on a regular basis. Thank you for being the oldest and not resenting what life dealt you but using the gifts and talents you were given at an early age to bless us and then your family. Thank you for singing - your voice is extremely beautiful. Thank you for playing the piano, it's like the balm of Giliad. Thank you for your love even when you feel empty, thank you for journaling and writing and nurturing and caring. Thank you for blogging! I love you. Xoxo
ReplyDeleteThank you for taking the time to respond and all your kind words through the years. You are so thoughtful and so sweet and have encouraged me so much. I love you too! XO
DeleteThank you for being a mom. Yup you really said it. Being happy in a new house so your kids will be happy. Meeting total strangers in a new city so you can make play dates so your kids have friends. Using the crockpot so you can drive everyone everywhere in the minivan and somehow feed and get the teenagers to youth by 7.... never procrastinate on your home work so you can still hand things in when your kids are up puking all night.... and buying a new laundry basket to put in the middle of the room under hubby's favorite spot to throw clothes. ... and then laughing together when both of you are too sick to get up with the baby but someone has to.... yup. Been there. I'd do it again. We're Moms. It's who we are
ReplyDeleteThank you that throughout all the craziness a morning brings you stop every morning and take time to send a text to your husband wishing him a great day and letting him (me) know that you love me.
ReplyDeleteYou are an amazing Woman, Wife and Mother and so so much more.
Thanks :) xo
DeleteThankyou for befriending a stranger on the other side of the world and gifting her poetry, wisdom and solidarity ❤️🥰 you are truly amazing!
ReplyDeleteThankyou so much xo
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