What do we long for most on this earth?
When we REALLY think about it? We long to be known, we long to be cherished, we long to feel that we are enough, that we are loved and that we matter to someone. We want this from our spouse, we want this from our friends, from our siblings, our grandparents, and most importantly from our parents.
The reality is is that our world is a place full of disrepair. So many broken battered humans doing what they can to keep going. Regardless of this no matter how old we get the desire to be loved and connected NEVER goes away. No matter how wounded you are, how bitter or completely done, somewhere inside will be that longing for love. When I am eighty and sick I will be wishing so desperately for my mother's comfort and that wish will stay with me to my last breathe. I can guarantee you that.
Life goes by quickly. When we are little it crawls by, we are always waiting! We are waiting to be big enough to go to school, waiting for summer vacation, waiting to be TEN cause we will be TWO digits. Then we are waiting to be THIRTEEN cause we will be a TEENAGER. Onwards it goes, but then at some point we realize how quickly time is flying by. It gets dizzying. All of a sudden we realize high school graduation was almost twenty years ago. We realize we don't have babies anymore they are hitting puberty. We realize we are hitting middle age and the beauty we have always wished for has always been there and it is fading fast, we realize we are going to be grandparents or retire! I don't think anyone just FEELS old. It is always a shock to realize that time has flown by so quickly. We always are looking forward in someways as to what is coming next but at some point we start looking back. We realize all we could have done, all we should have done, all we missed, and most of these longings are in regards to relationship.
We can't go back in time. All we have is right now.
We have this beautiful moment right here. It is fleeting, so so fleeting. It will be gone.
So many of us are focused on things that in the end are not as important as they seem right now. It might be a dream home, all the vacations to the various places, experiences we are intent on having. To some degree of course this is wonderful. Others of us spend so much time lost in our selves. We focus on what we don't have, our lack, our pain, our limitations. We miss what we have right now. We all have something to celebrate. Even if it just that we have eyes to see. When it comes down to it though in the end did the people in your life, your family, your friends, your children ~ did they feel understood, connected to you? Are you leaving an imprint on their lives that will carry on to generations?
Because you could.
We have been given a very great gift. The gift of choice.
What are putting all you have into? What choices are you making? Who are you focusing on pouring into? Is it the houses you are building? The boss you are working for? The co workers? Is it a dream of prosperity or success? Fame? The bitterness you hold against others? The anger you hold deep inside? The pride you carefully nurture? Are you giving your best to this? If you are maybe stop for a minute and take stock of your family, the friends you have, the people in your life that actually love you...... Are they happy? Are they feeling loved by you and understood? Or are they grieved by your attitudes, your demands, your lack of empathy, your goals that throw them to the wayside?
They are the ones that actually matter, these ones that love you, that you could love better.
They are the ones that deserve your best. It might feel that somehow they are asking too much and that all you are doing is actually for them in the end. However it isn't for them is it? It is for you, for you pride, for you to feel better in this crazy whirl wind we call life. I can guarantee that if they truly love you they would give it all up (whatever it is that you are spending all your best time and energy on) to have your love, attention, understanding, your joy and focus, and compassion. It would mean everything.
It is so easy to get caught up in this massive race we are all running but we don't have to run it. It is not mandatory no matter how many people tell you it is.
Relationships, connection, attachment, love, honesty, purity, commitment.....These are the real life givers and I am preaching this to myself. Oh help me remember this to my very marrow.
Sometimes it is good to step back and make some big changes. Money wont buy you happiness when all is said and done. In the end you can have millions and if your children don't love you or respect you and you are alone ~ those millions will not comfort you. All the empires of the earth will fall one day.
Love lasts ~ it transcends time ~ it heals.
xo
So true 🤗😘
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