Babe You're Not Lost

This song ~ Take a moment to listen to it if you can.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q-8ez6dGao8 

It is the song 'Lost' by Michael Buble.

I wanted to write about feeling lost and alone today. So many times in the past I have felt this way. The first time I heard that song my friend had made me a CD mix (Waaaaay back in the day!) and she put that song on it. I cried so hard. It was exactly how I was feeling about my life at that moment. I wanted someone to tell me, 'We'll get lost together till the light comes pouring through, when you feel like your done and the darkness has won, babe your not lost.' I still cant listen to the song without tearing up remembering how hopeless and alone I felt sometimes. I think everyone goes through feeling like this at some point. Some people feel this most of their lives and some people just have glimpses of it. As a mom I have often felt that in regards to parenting. Just so lost and dark. So many different issues came up that I just did not have the tools to deal with and I needed someone to come alongside me and help me out. Honestly when I look back I see now that it happened. Sometimes I would be alone for a long time and then help would come along in the most random ways. I think it is so important to be honest with yourself. To ask questions about why you are feeling how you are feeling and also figuring out what you really need to get through. Sometimes it is other people who are causing the issues. However you are still you! You are an adult and need to be make decisions that cultivate self care and self preservation. It is so important to do that. Sometimes we tell ourselves that we dont deserve it, or someone else tells us we dont, and we believe them. If we can get to a place of enough self awareness to see through the blackness, to see that tiny spark of light at the end (because it is always there somewhere) we will realize we are not totally lost ~ forever at least. Sometimes we have been lost for a long time. Sometimes we have been gone for a long time and we need to find our way back. However I believe that you can always be found. Sometimes you have been lost since baby hood because of things that happened when you were tiny. You have an adult body but there is lost parts deep inside that need healing. That takes hard work and its not fun. However to find that precious you in there is so vital to living a whole life. When you find you it is so beautiful. It is like finding your wings and you can finally fly after being grounded and seeing everyone else around you fly. 
Another hard thing is watching someone close to you who is lost. Depending on your family of origin you may come from a family full of lost ones. It breaks your heart doesn't it? It is really important to remember that rule that is so important in an airplane...put your oxygen mask on first. So when you find you and get healing you can actually be there for the others who are dark in a much more effective way. I remember a class I went to for parenting. There were two friends there and as much as they were trying to help each other they were constantly sabotaging each other because they were so lost. It was intense to watch. 
Some practical things I have found for myself in the midst of darkness is only focusing on doing one small thing at a time to start to help myself. That can be anything. For me at one point it was going somewhere by myself to let my nerves have some peace just for half an hour on Sundays. It sounds small but it would recharge me. I would cry and pray and go for a quick walk and just try to let light infuse me and I had it to look forward to. It was such a small thing but it was what was feasible at that point in life. 
So I would encourage you ~
Recognize why
Why are things so dark
Is it you?
Is it someone else around you?
If its you ~ well what needs to be done? Do you need counseling, a support group, time to yourself? What do you need?
If its a spouse or a child, parent or friend ~ well once again
What do YOU need to be able to remain whole as you journey with them. One hint ~ it may be as simple as some healthy boundaries!
I guess this song, as silly as it sounds, was like God singing to me, with the voice of Michael Buble,  :)
~ You are not alone
I'm always there with you
And we'll get lost together
Till the light comes pouring through
When you feel like your done
And the darkness has won
Babe your not lost ~

Thanks God ~ I love your singing voice by the way ~

But you know what ~ that was exactly what I needed to hear at that time. I hope if you are going through a horrible time and feel dark and alone and vulnerable; you will be able to reach out and find that you are not alone and not as lost as you thought. I hope darkness will not win, and that the light will come pouring through.
 xo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LoEWmc60wJY