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 When the first blush of love has faded

And you have a ring on your finger

And you've vowed you'll stay till you die

And you've eked out a pecking order

Peck peck peck

And you feel you're not winning in any way

And you get the sense he's not winning either

How do you fly the coop ~ together

Banish the pecking order

Throw words like selfish, lazy, unkind

Away

And move forward.

There is a way to grow up

To be gracious, empathetic, mature

To be giving of yourself to yourself 

And to him

To not need him to give you YOUR OWN worth

And all the feathers that he's ruffled and ripped out

You yourself can grow back

You can take a sabbatical

To heal

You can find truth talkers, encouragers

Who shed, beam, shine, 

Light on your path

And instead of co dependence and heart pain and shadows

Your own radiance is so bright any shadows of insecurity or old lies find no place to root

Oh it is deeply placed ~ these patterns that started it all ~

And moving a different way

Will take hard hard work

But it is yours

And you chose him

And you can change

And be kind too

And learn boundaries, freedom and truth

And doesn't the rest of forever look beautiful?

You being a friend to you AND to him?

You've flown the coop

Hopefully he flew with you

You are free